I Don’t Own My Hair


My sister and I have a pact:  We don’t make major changes to our hair without calling the other one first.

A couple of weeks ago I violated this pact.  I didn’t plan to or anything.  I just went in to get a trim on a haircut that I’d actually gotten a few compliments on.  But then, at the salon I saw a picture of (insert angels singing and harps strumming)   The Haircut of My Dreams.

Straight bangs across the forehead and straight bob.  It looked simple yet funky, exactly what a woman going through a mid-life crisis needed.

Now, I’m not stupid.  I mean, I did realize that the woman in the picture was probably a teenager and that her hair was shiny and red, but it was straight and one thing my hair has always been is straight.

The first time I married, I inherited a mother-in-law who owned a beauty parlor — not a salon but an old-fashioned beauty parlor.  Where women sporting pink curlers sat under dryers and came out flourishing bouffant hairdos that challenged gravity.   She considered my baby-fine, straight hair as a personal insult and tried everything in her arsenal.  And yet, week after week, the minute I walked out her door, it all fell into a stringy mess.  The closest she came to any kind of success was the year she put in a perm, had me wait an hour and then put in a second perm.  I rocked that 70’s afro for at least a week.

Now I was sitting in a comfortable chair, in a beautifully appointed hair salon imagining myself walking out the door with the hippest haircut.  I did ask Pamela if she thought I was too old for the cut and being the kind, yet honest person that she is, she said, “You could do it, you just have to OWN it.”

I told her to go for it and closed my eyes, imagining when I opened them, I’d own my hair like this woman.

Owning your look.

It didn’t happen.  Because, evidently – I don’t own my hair.  Well…and also because I’m not twenty…and I have wrinkles…and I don’t walk around wearing bright red lipstick all the time.

In Pamela’s defense, I’d begged for this haircut and, being the professional that she is, she let me come back a week later so she could undo what I couldn’t own. (Free of charge I might add – go see her at Alquemie Salon.)

I tried whining to my sister but she reminded me that, “that’s what a pact is for.”

Will I learn from this embarrassing mistake?  I doubt it.  I was going through some of my mother’s old journals and came across this entry – “Teresa arrived with another of her crazy haircuts.  I couldn’t say anything nice so just kept quiet.”

Hmmm, now that I think about it, everyone has been very quiet around me lately.


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11 thoughts on “I Don’t Own My Hair

  1. Pingback: I Don’t Want That… | CRAZIE TOWN

  2. serenelife

    It’s when people DO comment on your hair that you have to worry. Unless of course, it’s a total catastrophe that they are afraid to call attention to. I’m guessing you own your hair more than you know.

  3. 1wanderingtruthseeker

    When women get upset they usually do something drastic to their hair. I had one hairdresser refuse to cut ALL of my hair because I had just broken up with a fellow. She told me to come back next week if I still wanted to chop off all my hair and she would do it. I never went back. Nice hairdresser.

    1. CrazieTown Post author

      Dear 1wanderingtruthseeker,

      One of my favorite haircuts was done by a barber – super short – loved it. Perhaps it’s time to try that one again. Ha ha. I’ll never learn.

      1. 1wanderingtruthseeker

        but I do love short hair. I just wanted her to cut it ALL off. My hair is really short now. Hope you enjoy our short cut!!!! It’s summer time.

  4. wonderlandwanderess

    I enjoyed your post, haven’t we all had that moment of seeing this gorgeous haircut in a magazine, and thinking we’ll become someone else, the horror when “tada!” it is finished. Where is the shiny bob, or are the lush curls?!
    I tried it once and never again, I stick with me, much less dissapointment 🙂


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